Talked to my daughter today, she seems in brighter spirits than she was a few days ago. Her fiancé has spoken to an attorney and will be meeting with him next week. Apparently he’s going for custody of his son and my daughter says that it’s okay with her.
What a shame that it’s going that far. This little boy, under the right circumstances, could have three adults in parental positions to love him and take care of him if everyone could back off and get things in the right perspective.
If the three of them, the ex, the fiancé and my daughter could sit down as adults and explain what each of them expected of each other, calmly discuss what’s reasonable and appropriate and establish some boundaries, it would be a step in the right direction.
Another step would be to let the grandmother know that she needs to stay completely out of it because by meddling, all she’s doing is keeping things stirred up and slowly but surely, alienating her own son by meddling in his personal business. Whether she realizes it or not, she’s definitely not doing her grandson any favors.
For my daughter’s sake I hope it can be worked out but my gut instinct as her mother says that she should seriously rethink this upcoming marriage.